Thank you for your latest post.

After further thought... and getting a bit more sleep (still far from enough)... Although I may dislike some things that folks may say or do at times, and I may disagree or complain about those things, I usually don't resent or hold grudges... for most things. Those lesser things are forgiven, if there was anything to forgive.

After further thought, it turns out that there are some much more serious things that I haven't forgiven, but they are far in the back of my mind & I they don't fester or stew over them (it took some years to get to that point in each case). Those few things are much more serious; they were/are clear violations of state, national, or international law(s); and these things have caused considerable harm to me, my family, and my friends over the years.

I will forgive the person(s) who clearly commited these much more serious sins if & only after they have shown real regret, remorse & penance, including restitution as best possible. Until then, non-violent resistance is the worst that they can expect from me.

Related, I greatly respect Mahatma Gandhi & many of the examples that he set.

Turns out, I agree with your discussion on neglect, etc.

To elaborate on my generalization, one of many variations on "neglect": not paying close enough attention when driving & thus creating an "accident". They may not have willfully intended to create the accident, but if they think about it, they know that should have pay enough attention when driving, in order to prevent an accident. (seems whether or not we pay enough attention when driving is a willful choice...) At least that's what they taught me in drivers ed, and that's what reason reminds me to do.

I consider not doing something to be the thoughful, prudent choice in applicable cases.

Yes, best choices in any case depends upon the situation, based on the possible outcomes, and if the positives outnumber the negatives, then imagine what will happen. I'd like to always help, but the negative can outweigh the positives. (Like when I spend too much time on internet, according to my best friend & spouse.)

Thank you again. 'a