That was a good point Laurels with your problem with your stepsister. In retrospect, I see how much easier it is to forgive someone for something that they didn't do. It is harder to fogive someone of something you are certain that they did, even if you aren't positive.

I am one who will hold a grudge against someone even if I am not competely certain that they never committed this wrong against me. For instance, I know that O.J killed his wife, but if he really didn't, then I would have egg on my face for holding such a grudge against him.

It is probably because it is easier to stay in a certain mindset rather than try and change. Although if you think about it, in those times when you just let go and do change, you wonder why you weren't like that the entire time.

I only partly agree with the point that Amit makes with the definition of sin. He states,

My definition of what constitutes a "sin" usually includes the element of neglect or negative motive.

I only partly agree with that because although a wrongdoing is an act of negative motive, neglect is not always the case. There are instances where not doing something is the better answer. For instance, if some street person came up to me and asked me for a ride, I would consider giving the scumbag a ride because it would be the right thing to do, but there is the chance that I could be giving this person a ride to places less than desirable, and would thereby putting myself into harms way.

So, it isn't always a good idea to help people depending on the situation. It is always good to judge a situation based on the possible outcomes, and if the positives outnumber the negatives, then imagine what will happen.