Alright, to Aithne's question. Whether you wanted the cyber or not, and now you want it to end, I think it is not best to go out with a bang, else the other person feels like a keg of gunpowder went off in their face. Though sometimes it needed, especially if the person is advancing on you and you've never shown interest,

Always try to make your cyber-buddy doesn't only cyber with you, talk to the, about their day, events coming up, news, thoughts, etc. This makes it less of cybering and more like a friend. If you are cybering, and feeling uncomfortable about it, give hints like ...

"Wow that was really good, I feel kind of guilty about doing it though" and such things, or raise the issue in discussions if its ethical or not, start showing unessiness/uncomfortable about it. Then when you feel like it :

"I need to stop for now, I've been having doubts as you know, and I think I just need to take a break, I don't know how long, I may not cyber again, I wouldn't cheat on my lover in real life, but I feel like I'm cheating with you. I just need some time."

Leave it like that, remember this is s voluntary cyber relationship ender, if you never wanted cyber, be quick with the scribes, block chats, email too (if they know your MSN, they probably know that email)

Also, the reason the example I had was sortof hinting it may not over, because it doesn't make them feel angry, but also it lets you get back to being normal friends, and if the question ever arises about cyber, just say that you decided not too.

So some helpful things to say:

- "I don't feel right doing this."
- "I feel like I'm being unfaithful."
- "This is getting to be too much for me."
- "I don't want my relationship to suffer." (if your single, then your in a single relationship, and you feel like your getting into one, so your singleness is suffering *W*)
- "What about William? Poor poor William." *S*


I've used Fedelm before when I feel overwhelmed and I think it does good, because it looks like RP at the same time. Any other suggestions? Maybe Im too soft on it. I just don't view predators as big furry mean wovles, not all of them.